Domestic violence is becoming commonplace. Most often, it targets women and children, however, according to statistics, about 70% of cases of domestic violence occur in wives. It is worth noting that this figure is not accurate, because many women hide the beatings and are ashamed to tell their loved ones about what happened. But what if this really happened?
Why does the husband beat his wife?
By nature, a man has an instinct for self-assertion, and most often he expresses it precisely through strength. If in the distant past, men could show their power on the hunt or in wars, now, when there is no longer such a need, the only place where they show their strength is in the family. These male rapists can be divided into two types. The first type is a man who gradually, in a quarrel, comes to assault, accumulating aggression to the last. The second type, which is less common, is more terrible than the first: it can attack sharply, spontaneously, while its appearance may not express any aggressiveness. The plans of such a man may even include murder.
What if this did happen?
If a man raised his hand for the first time, the woman needs to realize that it was she who chose the role of the victim. Yes, that is right. The husband will treat his wife the way she allows him to. Many, of course, will say that it is easy to speak from the outside, but perhaps it is better to find strength in yourself in time and say that such an attitude is absolutely unacceptable. Feeling sorry for yourself is also not the best way out, as well as justifying such behavior on the part of the husband, for example, by the fact that he is tired at work, etc. It is better to immediately, without waiting for the next attack of aggression, try to resolve this conflict by showing your fierce displeasure.
Throw it and run away - this advice is the most common in this situation. In most cases, it is also the most suitable, because you really cannot endure beatings all your life. Do not be afraid of leaving - life does not end there. Especially if there are children in the family, you need to think about them too - the child's psyche will be disturbed if from childhood he will observe how his father beats his mother. In addition, beatings are often extended to children.
If the conflict is accompanied by threats to life from the husband, it is worth contacting special help centers that are just involved in the protection of victims of domestic violence. Almost every city or at least region has such a center, so it is not difficult to contact specialists. If for some reason this is not possible, you can turn to your friends and relatives and, as a continuation of the previous advice, run as soon as possible and farther away. In addition, it is necessary as soon as possible to contact any medical institution where the beatings will be recorded, and with these data - to contact such authorities as the police and the court.
Domestic violence is a problem that cannot be left just like that - it must be addressed. Run away, turn to a psychologist, try to resolve the conflict … There can be many solutions, though not all and not always will really help. You just need to remember that beats does not mean loves, and one must not be afraid to break with the aggressor at first. No one can help until the woman herself realizes that she is not worthy of such treatment.
